Anonymous asked: (2/2) and i sort of isolated myself for a while because i just hurt. and then even more recently, i guess boys and girls have been taking more notice of me or something? which is new, wierd and sort of good-feeling?, and i went to talk to her about it again, because i still trusted her about it and i didn't want to tell anyone else, and she just says stuff like, 'ugh but i don't get it. why would they?' or 'but why ~you?' and it really bothers me and i feel like she was lying to me before.


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I’m so sorry that this has happened to you! That’s terrible. The only advice I can really give you is to confront her. She outed you, and that’s never cool. You need to directly tell her what she did and demand an answer from her. It might be a good idea to trust her less with personal stuff like that, even though I know that’s extremely hard. However, she could have a justified reason for doing this, even though what she did was not justified at all. She could be going to other people because she’s confused about your sexuality and wants to talk to other people about it. Maybe she was trying to get you out there in order to set you up, or she did it because she was trying to get you to be more bold and up front about it. SHE might even be confused herself about her own sexuality. Perhaps she was telling other people to test their reactions. She might be getting ready to come out too. You really never know. Either way, what she did was inexcusable. It’s perfectly fine to forgive her and move on, if that’s what you want to do. Just as long as she knows that she can’t toy with your secrets any longer. Other than that, congrats on girls and boys alike taking more notice of you! That’s an awesome aspect! Let me know how it goes! xx

-Lela

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Anonymous asked: (1/2) i told my friend about half a year ago that i ~really like girls and guys, and she gave me a hug and everything: telling me that it's fine and i'm beautiful and any girl would be lucky to have me. she;s the only person i told, and i was happy at frst because, y'know. i had someone i could come to about these things now. but, about a month ago my other friends came up to me and told me that she'd been telling people i was bi and that she kept talking about it,


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kelsethemonster-deactivated2013 asked: i love your blog. its so encouraging to see something like this. because most of the time, people are asking questions that i've asked myself but have been to afraid to ask others. so thanks for this blog <3 :)


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I’m so glad! Thank you for the compliments! You’re wonderful! And please know that we are HERE whenever you need! Don’t ever hesitate to ask for advice! xx

-Lela

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Anonymous asked: I came out when i was in 7th grade to being bi. this was way before the whole "bisexual fad" occurred. I didn't have really strong feelings for any girls until my freshman year. I'm going into 10th grade now and i'm in a relationship with a girl. I've never cared for anyone as much as i care about her. I think i'm a lesbian. I've dated guys and i've even had sex with them. But i never really enjoyed it and i have strong connections with girls more. Am i a lesbian?


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You could very well be a lesbian. But it’s important that you give more thought to who you are rather than what you are. If you’re still unsure between bisexual and lesbian, begin identifying as queer, which is a vague term. That’s what I like about that word. It gives you time and space to change if and when you need to. Sexuality is fluid and always growing into new things and meanings. Don’t be discouraged just because you don’t know RIGHT NOW. Nothing has to be set in stone. You are who you are, you’re with who you’re with, and that’s all that matters. I know a girl—she’s actually the girl that helped me realize that I’m bi—who identified as lesbian. Then, all the sudden, she fell for a guy. Now she identifies as bi. Or maybe she’s still lesbian, but with the exception of this one guy. That’s perfectly fine. We get so caught up in these labels that we forget what they really mean. Don’t stress too much about it. Good luck! xx

-Lela

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bossyteeshh asked: THANKS FOR FOLLOWING ME BACK !!!!! :))


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Of course! xx

-Lela

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